I remember being the baby whisperer when I was younger. There was not one child that I couldn't deal with or have sleep and ready to go with their parents after watching them. After I had my first child, that whisper became a little loud lol. What happened to me being able to control the situation. Imagine how confused I was when my own child whom I carried didn't do as thy commanded lol. Oh and there was no such thing as whispering, whisp, I mean nothing by the time my second child came along. All that not my child and everything else was out the door.
I heard me and I heard what I said, but for some reason my children's actions were not moving at the pace my words intended. How? Clearly something is wrong with them or about to be lol. It's funny how sometimes when things don't go as we planned or intended, the first thing we do is look at everything but self. My kids were one of the very things that was a wake up call to control for me. It had very little to do with me just being their mom, but more with me establishing who their mom was to them.
Everyday I am challenged with making a decision to LET GO and work on establishing who I am! I no longer need to control the narrative for people, I no longer feel the pressure to do, be, or have. That was not an easy place to get to and I didn't notice places where I was controlling or felt the need to be in control. It was masked with making sure I got things done. It started young too. After so many unfulfilled promises from people I took at their word, I decided that I would make sure things happen. I wouldn't ask anybody for anything unless I really needed to. I mainly asked my sister for things and I had my few friends that I may have asked for something I wanted at that moment. Even then I learned I needed to have my own. Never thought of the effect of what was developing in me would have on my marriage and relationships with friends or people in general.
Have you ever noticed out of all the fruits of the spirit it only has one type of control? One. Self-control. Out of all the controls to have, it only speaks of you to have control over self. In fact, I do not know what part of the fruit of the spirit you can have without self-control. It takes self-control for all of them. There are so many things out of your control that you will stress yourself out trying to control that to. Friend, let it GO!
This is something I was lead to write about and hadn't notice I was still dealing with it. I took this time out to recognize those areas and get self-control over it and let control GO!
That person you want to understand you and see your perspective.... let it GO!
That assignment or job that you feel needs to go a certain way without help... let it GO!
The need for the people you want to see you or treat you a certain way... let it GO!
The need to react off energy that doesn't fall in line with your identity... LET IT GO!
The idea of you being who you thought you would be or have at a certain time.. let it GO and allow room for change.
Basically work on you. I now recognize the greatness in having self-control. I find myself enjoying more of my day, the people I'm connected to and being productive. One thing to understand if you are dealing with control is that it is as simple as making a decision in the moment you feel it rising. Make a decision to not react the way you always would. It will be ok, I promise you. Listen, I will take joy and peace over being stressed, mad or annoyed. Time is something you can't get back and we waste it when we allow control to take up so much time in our lives. Time that can be used for far greater. No longer let things, people, circumstances that you can not control take up time or residence with you. Let it GO, and walk in the freedom!
Galatians 5:1 AMP
It was for this freedom that Christ set us free [completely liberating us]; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery [which you once removed].
Galatians 5:22-23 AMP
But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy [inner] peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.
If you have chosen to believe and receive the Father, then the fruit of the Spirit is the best squad you can have.
If you haven't chosen to believe and receive the Father, the fruit of the Spirit is the best squad you can have.
You are ROYALTY! You can choose it.
It has already chosen YOU...
1 Peter 2:9
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;
- Pray and ask God to reveal areas where you do not have self-control.
- Write those things down and put into practice only having control over self.
- Read Galatians 5:22-23 and speak it over yourself as an affirmation daily.
- As soon as control over anything besides yourself rises, pause and think of your daily affirmation in Galatians and choose one of the fruits instead. (Ex. choose joy)
- Journal your journey and celebrate your new freedom.
Thank you for joining me on this journey. It has truly been something learning more about myself and I pray that anything I share may encourage or help you.
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